Unexpected Expectations

Expectations can be big bummers sometimes. For example, when someone(the expectings) have certain expectations of you(the expecteds), they will anticipate you to act in a certain way. And, when that doesn't happen, the someone(expectings) might get angry, disappointed or upset.

Or, like being a Christian, people expect you to be "holy", "just", and practically flawless. In cases like these, the Christians' mistakes tend to be amplified and the reactions to them are more harsh and unaccepting. This is even more so for those of the expecteds who are in leadership positions, it seems that they living their lives under microscopic lenses. Its kind of like being a movie star and that paparazzis are stalking you, waiting for you to do something so that the tabloids and news stations can buy the pictures from them. The more famous you are, the more likely for your mistakes to make the headlines, get more pages in the papers and air-time in the news.

I find it quite sad that, sometimes, these expections are pretty unrealistic. Unrealistic in the sense that they expect you to be who they HOPE you to be. This might be a result of the expectings not knowing the expecteds well enough, or that the expecteds are being held way too high in the eyes of the expectings. And sometimes, the expected don't even know that they are held in that position till someone comes huff and puff about what should or should not be done.

This is quite scary as well, because some of the expects started becoming who they are not in order to meet these expectations. That reminded me of the Pharisees who had the need to always appear good in front of others. This would then lead to another issue: being a hypocrite. I'm not saying that there is then no need for us to change for the better, but I believe that a change can only truly finish its course when brought about by something that the person is passionate about, and not just so that they can please others.Wouldn't it be nice if everyone could be more forgiving, more accepting, more understanding and less critical?

That leaves us with the question;

Are you expecting?